Helicopter Parent

Parents who control and hover over their children continuously justify their action by using the following phrases often:

I want to protect them

I want them to do their best

I am a good parent and  I’ll do everything to protect them.

And there are many more expressions by the so-called controlling parent, the helicopter parent.

When they talk it is all about “I” and not about the child.
 

The job of parents is

To prepare their children for the adult life, to teach and prepare them to live on their own.

To teach them that there are consequences for anything they do – good or bad!

Toddlers will hold on to the parent’s leg and then they are slowly breaking away to become an adult.

The more protective and controlling a parent is the more violent the breakaway will be.

Don’t spoil them and give them everything, because then they will grow up not knowing adversity.

 Don’t induce a dependency on you (the parent). Children will grow up and leave the “nest”!

 Don’t deny them their lives by being a controlling parent.

Prepare your child for the world by loosening the apron string as they are growing up.

They will make mistakes, but they will learn from it, they will fall down, but they will get up, the same way you did.

Once they graduate from High School, they will move on! You can guide them but you cannot control and hover over them.

Don’t be a HELICOPTER PARENT!