Choosing Forgiveness
Forgiveness is what you do for yourself, not for other people.
When you forgive, it doesn't mean that you approve of
what's happened. Rather, it means that you're giving yourself permission to
move on with your life.
Forgiveness is a choice. You have to choose it.
Don't give your power away.
The pain of what happened is inevitable, but continuing
to suffer is optional.
The only person you can control is you. By constantly
reliving the pain of what happened, you are giving your power away to the
person who wronged you.
Don't cling to negative feelings.
Anger is nothing more than an outward sign of hurt, fear,
guilt, grief or frustration.
While the pain may never completely disappear,
forgiveness can help you release the anger and bring those in your life closer
to you.
There is no right timeline for recovery. For some people,
making peace happens suddenly and spontaneously. For others, it takes time and
effort. You may have to make a conscious effort every day to forgive. To say,
"I'm letting this go. I'm not going to invest hatred, bitterness, anger,
resentment in this person anymore." You can find closure in forgiveness.
You can't change the things that happened in your life,
but you can decide how you interpret and respond to them. If you didn't receive
support when you needed it, give it to yourself now.
Share your experience with others. Finding a lesson in
what happened can help put the experience in perspective and your emotions in
check. People can thrive and suffer at the same time. - (Excerpts – Dr. Phil
McGraw)
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